This chapter outlines four main habits that can help ease and remove the tress out of the environment. The first habit that is mentioned is that you should “Clear your desk Of all paper except those related to the immediate problem at hand”, this is eliminating any distractions from the worker as they will not be bothered with unnecessary items such as papers. The second habit that should be implemented is to “Do things in the order of their importance. What Carnegie is saying here is that one has to prioritize the jobs or the tasks that need to be completed.
The third habit that should be implemented according to this book is that “when you face a problem, solve t, then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision. Do not keep putting off decisions. Carnegie is not only alluding to making decisions but he is also talking about procrastination. He wants end procrastination because that drags situations and tasks to a point where you do not want to do then anymore. The last and final habit is to “learn to organize, deputies, and supervise”. Here Carnegie is wrapping the last three habits into this one.
He says that being organized does not only mean having a schedule but also in the workplace, you are sitting in; alluding to the first habit. Chapter 3 In this chapter, Carnegie explores what can make someone tired and what they can do to get rid of this laziness. His number one argument is that a person needs to be relaxed; and he suggests four things to help someone learn to become relaxed. 1. Relax in odd moments 2. Work as much as possible in a comfortable position 3. Check yourself four or five time a day while asking yourself some questions 4. Test yourself again at the end of the day.
Chapter 4 Carnegie argues that boredom produces three things; fatigue, worry, and resentment. He says that it does not matter what anyone thinks about your job, even your boss. All that matters is what makes you interested in the job. Carnegie also says that one has to remind himself of this happiness. Chapter 5 One thing you can come out Of this chapter with is the last line; “Count your blessings- not your troubles”. In addition, that is what almost all human beings forget or do not pay attention to because they are so caught up in doing whatever it is you are doing.
Chapter 6 “Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog’ what he is saying here is that you should not worry yourself over what other people think of you. Moreover, he uses this imagery of no one kicks a dead dog. If you show you, do not care about what people think then you they are pretty much kicking a dead dog. Chapter 7 A deeper exploration of the chapter before, but puts it on a personal level so that we can have a better connection and understand what he is saying.
He says that “when you and I are unjustly criticized, let’s remember to: Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck” Chapter 8 Carnegie has no explored everything on a personal level. Telling us and advising us on what to do for ourselves first. Now he moves on and starts exploring the fundamental techniques in handling people. Very similar to the past chapters, he says that we should not criticize, and instead we should start praising and have a more honest appreciation Of the person in front Of you.
Chapter 9 The example used to label the chapter is a great way to say that you do not have to get everyone around you angry and especially when you want to benefit from them. It is interesting to see that he uses someone as AH Capons as an example in this book. Following this rule; do not criticize, condemn or implying. Chapter 10 Learning to deal with people is by far the biggest thing one can learn because without interactions we would not be where we war right now. Carnegie says and ends the chapter by saying, “give honest and sincere appreciation.
Because of these human interactions, we need to understand that if we have a good foundation, it will carry on everywhere we go, but if we have a weak foundation then we might not last for too much; you will be the “one who walks a lonely way”. Chapter 11 Carnegie is giving us the formula to have that strong foundation. That foundation that is promised to everyone. Carnegie says that the person has to be genuinely interested in others, meaning they want to meet new people and they are not afraid to do so.
Chapter 12 To summarize this chapter, you need to follow one simple rule so everyone could like you. Show that you are interested in talking and that you make this other person feel important, just by doing it with sincerity. Chapter 13 Learning to avoid making enemies you might find is hard, but Carnegie has given ways to avoid it. In this chapter not only does the author give us examples of what we do most of the time, which is thinking that were right ND correcting people. He also gives us examples Of real life situations that were down to avoid having enemies.
Carnegie writes about people ages ago that have dealt with such things properly. Although someone could be wrong, the best way to let them know is to do it subtly and in a way that is not straightforward. As it says in the book going to say, “I’m right and you’re wrong” is not the best option you have and it is not the only option you have. Although you might not be wrong respect the person’s opinion and let them, speak before you truly identify that they do not know what they are talking bout.
Nobody wants to admit that they are wrong but learning to do so shows people around you how respectful, open-minded you are, and it will show them how to do so too. Showing respect towards another person’s opinion is not meant to be hard, it is something that comes naturally because we should already be doing it. This will make you happier because you know that the other person respects you and it will make the other person happy because they will find out how respectful and open-minded you are. Chapter 14 In this chapter, Carnegie is saying to us “begin everything you say or do in a roundly way”.
This is the way everyone should already be treating each other. It can be as easy as saying a nice “hello” with a pleasant smile, to someone you walk past, and get more complicated as you get used to it more. Kindness and gentleness towards people should come naturally, it does not need to be practiced because then it will not be genuine but forced. Carnegie uses many sayings that famous and well-known people said, these sayings not only do people remember but they always use them as pointers and advice when they need them.
Being friendly towards people will get you a good impression ND Chapter 15 You might not have this same opinion as the next person, but you should never start a conversation with something that you either will argue about or not have the same opinions. In this chapter, the author explains how we should try more of getting people to say, “Yes yes” during a conversation instead of a heated argumentative conversation. Engaging and emphasizing good things that two will agree on are the best way to get to know other people and making good impressions.
This will make the other person happy because they will probably be thinking, “this person has a lot in common with e”, if you can agree on something with someone. It will make your life and your surroundings easier to be around because you can get along with people not argue nonstop. Chapter 16 Cooperating with people could be the easiest thing for some people, or it could be the hardest things for others. Carnegie explains how “letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers” is one of the best ways of cooperating with others.
This should make you happy because “wow’ this person is really happy and excited, and because the other person will only think the best of you. The author gives many situations and examples in which this happens. Taking credit for ideas feels great, but giving people credit for that same idea will make everything even better. Chapter 17 What does “appealing to the nobler motives” actually mean? In this chapter, Carnegie emphasizes on this phrase and explains while using multiple examples of why we should do so. A phrase describes persuading yourself/ someone to do the right thing.
By appealing to higher motives, a person is reminded to act with integrity and virtue, even if it is difficult to do so in that particular situation. Doing this will have a lot of effectiveness in being happy ND enjoying yourself. Doing so makes you the bigger person, as they say sometimes. It will also make people around you think better of you. Chapter 18 Learning to call attention to a person’s mistakes is easy, but calling on their mistakes indirectly is hard when you are used to telling people things straight forward. It is not good to go to someone and say, “You’re doing this wrong”.
It will make them think of you as rude, arrogant, know it all, etc. This will not make it easier for you to be in your surroundings. Being kind and indirect when someone is making a mistake or has made a mistake will take you rather then you could expect. You will be making other people and yourself happy by doing so because it will make people come to you for advice and think only the best about you. Chapter 19 Before calling out onto peoples mistakes, learn to talk about your own first. Criticizing people before you actually think about your own flaws and mistakes will become a habit if you do it often.
Criticizing people will not gain you anything but it could cost you people that are in your life, around you, and many other things. Have you ever stopped to think, “Hey I did that same mistake when I was younger”? If you know you have done something like that before why criticize people when you can simply help them? In this chapter, Carnegie gives personal examples and other examples of criticizing people before thinking about your mistakes. Thinking positive about people and forgetting about their flaws and mistakes will only cause happiness for the other person and you.
Chapter 20 In this chapter, Carnegie is explaining the importance of asking questions, not giving direct orders. When ordering people around, it will not make them want to be around you, which will only effect you negatively. When someone orders someone around, the first thing that they are instantly labeled is “Bossy’. If you are labeled this, it will not make it easy or enjoyable to be in your surroundings. In order to find happiness and enjoyable environment, then you need to treat everyone the same. Instead of ordering people around give suggestions and ask questions.
When telling someone to do something, did you ever ask yourself, what if that was me? Not ordering people around will help you be happy because people will be happy with you. Chapter 21 Carnegie is trying to teach us in this chapter how to “let the other person save ace”. Letting the other person save face means to avoid being embarrassed. When you let another person save face, you give him the opportunity to correct an error he might have made before they become embarrassed by it. Picking out things that could embarrass someone or put him or her in an awkward situation.
In order to avoid an argument or hard feelings, allow the other person to think that they are right. Do not put them in a position in which they are forced to think less of themselves. Doing this will only make you happier because you caused no embarrassment or problems for someone. One of the most important lessons that I learned from this book is “Find yourself and be yourself: Remember, there is no one else on Earth like you”, because if you cannot do that, then you cannot take in advice any of the things Carnegie has stated throughout his book.
Carnegie has based his argument off this quote, which is why it was placed on the first chapter and first page of his book. Carnegie explains that this is the first thing that needs to be done in order for you to enjoy your life and your job. If this cannot be done, then achieving steps to happiness will not be easy to conquer. One Of the examples of reality that Carnegie used was “When Mary Margaret McBride first went on air; she tried to be an Irish comedian and failed. When she tried to be what she was-a plain girl from Missouri-she became one of the most popular radio starts in New York. Once again this all comes back to just being yourself, being yourself wont only make you successful and happy, it’ll make you realize how great of a person you really are, because your just being you. This book suggests strategies for achieving inner peace, happiness, and handling people effectively. This will not happen unless you rule are the person that you say you are. Being yourself can be very difficult in this society today. This generation is very effected by technology and celebrities.
This affects me every day because you find people trying to act like someone else to be “cool”, because being yourself is not satisfying enough for the people around you. These days it is all about what s trending and what is new, for example you have to buy the latest purse or shoes. When in reality you might not really want to be you do it any. Bay, to uphold the status that you have. When you do this, you are taking your happiness way very quickly because you are doing things that other people want, not what you want, and you are not being truly honest with yourself.
It is not supposed to be hard being yourself. In my opinion, all you need to do is peel off the outer layers and focus on what is inside you. This lesson has benefited me on a personal level because not only do have a lot of pressure on doing what I want and being who I want to be, but also everybody does because that is how our society works. There will always be the pressure of being perfect, but in reality, no one can be perfect, everybody is perfect in his or her own way and manner. This book offers techniques that are sound which have helped “millions” to improve their lives.
Some of these include learning essential work habits, overcoming fatigue, working with others people, having a good attitude, and developing a way to use and get respect from others. The author treats every day as being exciting and rewarding with more productivity. Chapters focus on finding peace and happiness, techniques for handling people, winning people to your way of thinking, changing people without giving offense or arousing resentment. Reading this book reminds me that everything we do is affected by our attitudes and how e approach both life and other individuals.